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Balancing my Yearning for Spontaneous Intimacy While Pursuing a Meaningful Relationship
Being a homosexual male in my late 40s, my life has involved numerous, largely enjoyable years engaging in casual sex with other men since the age of 19. During my fourth decade, I had a committed partnership which continued for four years, however it never fully satisfied me, because I felt neither loved nor sexually nourished. The fact is that my constant desire has been for casual sex. Every time I start seeing any man, once the newness dwindles, I always get the urge to be intimate with new partners once more.
Questioning the Feasibility of Exclusive Commitment
I am now wondering if I’ll ever be able to sustain a faithful partnership. I'm aware that many homosexual males have non-monogamous arrangements, but from my observations, they have seemed demanding, often resulting in lots of heartache and envy for everyone involved. To a large extent, I want a partner to love me while allowing me to remain sexually free, but I dread to imagine the emotional drain this would cause. Should I just continue to have casual sex and acknowledge that a lasting partnership is not possible? I feel somewhat confused.
Every person’s intimate path varies. Avoid considering about what you require in partnerships or your ability to tolerate different types of sexual unions in a finite way. What you need in your current state could easily shift down the road; at a certain time you may find yourself less ambivalent and find some clarity and a suitable route … or perhaps not. At some point you might meet someone offering a life-changing chance to you by reflecting what you want in a holistic fashion … and later on you may choose that non-committal encounters suit you best. Worrying about the future and playing endless speculation is simply anxiety-based and a waste of your efforts. Aim to stay present in your relationships, and recognize the worth of each person with whom you might have a sexual connection. If and when the time is right to deepen true intimacy with one partner, you will know.
- Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a American psychotherapist focusing on addressing sexual disorders.
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